Ever try changing a habit so desperately only to find out that something deep within is not willing? You have gone to counselors, psychologists, spent money on self-help books and you have been drawn to every sort of seminar that includes self-help stuff only to find yourself at the same position you were in before? It is said that it is at this moment when the subconscious and the conscious are at logger heads and in most cases your subconscious wins. Our habits drive our lives, that is why it is important to bring the bad habits into our conscious awareness and replace them with good ones to be able to move forward. If you are not yet where you want to be or if you have not yet achieved what you have always desired, and this has been going on for a long time, then you ought to really examine your approaches to life and especially to your habits. What forms a habit? Why do we do some things without even thinking? I suggest you prepare a list of how you perceive things around you and your attitude toward life. Of course, you will have those attitudes that do not serve you well and you do not have to beat yourself down because of it, after all you are human. All you have to do is eliminate them completely and replace them with their opposite ones. Say you think that you are looser and you cannot achieve anything in life or that life is way too hard whatever your perception is, your subconscious takes it in and it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. So instead of saying that, think of your past achievements or imagine how much you can achieve and how easy life can get if only you could apply the right skills. You may not believe it, but I advise that you keep doing it, fake it till you make it. Keep repeating those words to yourself as much as possible and no matter how long it takes, you will enjoy its aftermath.